Before we dive in, I just want to remind you, if you haven’t already reserved your free spot, there is still time to sign up for my workshop:
Hundreds of ACOAs have already signed up and if you’re one of them, I just want to say thank you. Without your support and enthusiasm I wouldn’t be able to do the work that I do. And I want you to know that I appreciate every second of your time and attention.
If it wasn’t for you, I wouldn’t have this outlet to give some of the most painful and traumatizing events of my life a higher meaning and purpose. And as much as I hope that the work that I do helps you in some small way please know that you’re helping me in ways that you couldn’t even begin to imagine.
Which brings me to today’s post.
Between the hurricanes, earthquakes, the terror attack just this past weekend in Marseilles, France and the unfathomable tragedy that took place in Las Vegas, Nevada yesterday, it’s so easy to become overwhelmed with fear. To feel hopeless, helpless and scared not knowing what tomorrow may bring.
And for people who’ve experienced trauma, have trust issues, have suffered great loss, are estranged from their families, or who are struggling with addiction, either directly or indirectly, times like this can easily trigger and magnify the painful issues we deal with on any regular day.
Now, of course, I’m not comparing pain here or trying to make one out to be better, worse or equal to the other. And I’m not saying that the pain is easily transferable or relatable. If you or someone you know has been impacted by any of the tragedies that have been plastered across the news lately, please know that your pain and suffering has not gone unnoticed.
From the bottom of my heart, the only thing I can think to say is, I’m sorry.
Which brings me to an important question I think that we as people who have experienced some of the worst that life has to offer need to ask ourselves. And that question is this,
How can we use our suffering to help those that are suffering?
As Rumi once said, The wound is where the light enters you.
As people who know pain, abandonment and heartache. As people who know disappointment and the long arc of grief. As people who’ve been wounded, how can we use our light to lead the way to healing? How can we use our lives to show those who are suffering that healing is possible? That it won’t hurt every day? That there is life on the other side of pain and grief?
Because if you think about it we as people who’ve lost loved ones to addiction, as people who suffered from abuse and lived with trauma, and have experienced some of the worst that life has to offer, in many ways we are some of the best equipt to help and lead the healing way.
Now, if you’re knee deep in your own recovery, helping someone else right now may not be possible for you. And that’s totally understandable. I’m not in any way suggesting that you have to do anything, especially if your recovery is your main priority right now. As they say when you get on an airplane, you have to help yourself first before you can help anyone else.
But at the same time, it’s something I think we need to think about especially if you’re trying to find meaning or a greater purpose for your suffering.
Now, I’d love to hear from you.
In the comment section below, share your thoughts and insights on the recent tragedies that seem to be taking over the world. If you feel overwhelmed, how do you deal? What insights can you offer?
What are your thoughts on this idea of leading the healing way? As people who’ve experienced trauma and know the pain of grief how can we, as a community and individually, help one another and the world?
Remember, your voice, experiences and insights are vital to this community. And what you have to share is not only unique but it may be exactly what someone else needs to read. And that someone could be you.
Until next Tuesday,