Happy Halloween! Hands down this is my favorite holiday of the year.
Although I won’t be doing anything tonight, I did celebrate about two weeks ago when I went to New Orleans/NOLA.
While I was there, with some friends, we ended up stumbling upon the Krewe Of Boo, which is the official Halloween parade of New Orleans.
There was plenty of music and beads to go around.
After that we went on a ghost tour. Besides the infamous Bourbon Street, NOLA is known for its tales of ghosts, vampires and all that is mystical and magical.
Speaking of magic, my trip to NOLA wouldn’t have been complete without a psychic reading of some kind.
This time I opted for a tea leaf reading as well as tarot card with a woman named Jez.
As always, my reading was spot on especially when she started talking about my family.
I’ve shared before about being estranged from them.
It was a choice that I made in order to preserve my sanity and emotional well being a long time ago. This isn’t a choice I regret but I’ve been feeling lately like I need to make peace with my family.
And this was exactly what Jez told me I need to do.
Her exact words to me were, “It’s time to go home. It’s time to make peace with them.”
As usual, when it comes to issues surrounding my family, a whole lot of resistance came up for me.
A little voice inside my head screamed, “OH HELLLL NAH.” How could I ever make peace with people who took our relationship for granted? How am I supposed to make peace with the people who turned to drugs, alcohol and violence over and over again. To the people, who instead of loving and protecting me, rejected and abandoned me.
While these thoughts were racing in my head, I asked her how I was supposed to do it. And her advice to me was simple. She said, “Pray and be willing.”
In other words, I don’t have to know how. I don’t have to do anything but pray and be willing.
This was such a relief to hear. Just the thought of making peace or even considering forgiveness has always felt overwhelming. But knowing that I can start the work internally before I ever even face any of these people, makes the task manageable.
So every morning when I wake up, before my feet touch the ground, I say to myself,
I am open to peace. I am willing to be willing.
And throughout the day, when I catch myself thinking about someone in my family or whatever beef I still have with them I repeat,
I am open to peace. I am willing to be willing.
What action or change of heart will this prayer lead to? I have no idea and that’s totally okay. For right now, I only have to be willing.
So, why am I sharing this story with you?
Well, you may be in a situation right now where despite your anger, pain or sadness, you too are looking for peace but you’re worried about the how.
- Whether you’re estranged from someone in your family
- Struggling with a mental illness such as depression
- Trying to come to terms with someone you lost to an overdose or someone who is actively using
- Or you’re healing from an abusive relationship of any kind
Whatever your situation, your heart may be telling you it’s time to make peace.
Now, making peace doesn’t happen overnight and there isn’t a magic wand powerful enough to speed up the process. Being willing to find peace doesn’t mean you condone someone’s hurtful actions or delinquent behavior.
Like forgiveness, making peace with your pain serves to benefit you. It’s about putting down the emotional or psychic burden you’ve been carrying in order to open up to life and all that is possible. And to get started all you have to do is pray and be willing.
I personally don’t think it matters who or what you pray to. It can be Buddha, Allah, God, Ganesh, nature or whoever you imagine as your Higher Power. It can be as simple as a whisper or a thought that you focus on first thing in the morning or before you go to bed at night. There is no right or wrong way. The choice is yours to make.
So, if you’re looking to start your own peace finding mission, here’s some simple steps to get started,
- Create a prayer of your own or you can borrow mine:)
- Repeat it often. Designate a specific time during the day where you will focus on it
- Trust that if you’re willing to be willing and open you will be shown the next best step to take
I hope all this talk about peace serves you in some way. As you can see, I’m working on my recovery and healing right along side you. There is always something to learn and room to grow and I’m grateful to be able to do that with you.
Now that you have a bit to think about, in the comments below share your prayer for peace. Or if peace is something you’ve been able to find, how did you find it? In what ways has your life benefited as a result? What insights or suggestions can you share with our community?
As always, I’d love to hear from you.
Remember, your voice, experiences and insights are vital to this community. And what you have to share is not only unique but it may be exactly what someone else needs to read. And that someone could be you.
Thanks for reading and contributing to the conversation!
Until Next Tuesday,
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