How are you? What’s going on in your corner of the world?
Not much is new here for me in New York City expect the weather. This past Saturday was mild, and the sun was out in full force. And yesterday, it snowed! So much for spring and warmer weather:)
Anyway, I wanted to share an essay I recently wrote for The Fix. It’s a piece that focuses on my relationships with my two older brothers.
If you’d like to check it out, CLICK HERE.
Years of addiction and jail destroyed my connection with them. And as a result, I’ve grown up feeling like an only child. If you’re a sibling to an active addict or alcoholic then you probably, to one degree or another, can relate to what I’m talking about.
It’s not usual for siblings of addicts and alcoholics to talk openly about the anger, guilt, sadness, and frustration they feel towards their sibling. Believe me; I get it. There was a time when I had no idea what to say when someone asked me if I had any siblings. On the one hand, I felt so embarrassed and ashamed, and on the other, I was tempted to lie and make my brother’s lives sound more together than they were.
But what I’ve come to realize is that there will always be people who judge and think it’s weird that I have no contact with my brothers. And then there will be the people who understand, and even if they can’t relate, they will at least try to empathize.
If you’re a sibling of an addict or alcoholic and you’re struggling, I hope this essay will lend you some comfort and remind you that you’re not alone. And if you’re not a sibling, but addiction has touched your life in some way then share this piece with someone who is.
Remember, no matter if you’re a mother, father, cousin, friend or grandparent of an addict or alcoholic – we’re all in this together.
Thanks for reading!
Until next Tuesday.