About six years ago, I started playing the violin.
At first, I took to it with ease and given that I have a background in music and also had, at that time, a quiet place to practice, I thought it would only be a few short weeks before I’d be able to play “Twinkle Twinkle Little Star” with my eyes closed.
But as soon as the practicing and the pieces became more challenging, I did what I typically do when I get frustrated, or when I don’t meet the ridiculous expectations I create for myself, and I gave up on the violin entirely.
Recently, I’ve been thinking about the violin A LOT and wondering if it’s too late for me to pick it up again.
Inside my head there’s this battle going on where part of me wants to believe that it’s never too late to start anything. But there’s also a part of me that’s PISSED at myself for giving up in the first place. I mean, imagine how far along I’d be with the violin at this point in my life if I didn’t give it up six years ago.
So instead of focusing on all the good that could still come from me rediscovering something that I love, and just getting on with it, I’ve been beating myself up.
But an email I recently received from a GUC reader helped put my confusion in perspective.
Basically, this lovely reader wrote in and asked whether or not it was too late for her to figure herself out.
As an adult child of an alcoholic father and a neglectful mother, she’s just now realizing how she’s never been a priority to anyone in her life. She’s tired of surviving but she’s afraid that it’s too late to start over and figure herself out.
Of course, it’s not too late for her or ANYONE, to heal, recover or start over. YES the task of recovery can be daunting and discovering your worth isn’t easy but how many things in life are ever easy?
And honestly, who gives a sh*t if you started six years ago or if today was your very first day?
What truly matters is that you get started, period. So, instead of letting the noise in your head get louder, instead of letting those, I’m too old or it’s too late to figure myself out, thoughts cloud your judgment, just get started. Do one small thing that will put you in motion. And then tomorrow you do another small thing and on and on.
As Karen Lamb once said:
A year from now you will wish you had started today.
Believe me, a year from now, if you do absolutely nothing for your recovery you will look back and regret thinking that today was too late.
So, to help you get started I’ve pulled together 6 options that can either help jump-start your recovery journey or keep it going strong.
Of course after you’re finished reading and exploring make sure you jump in the comment section and share with me one thing that you’re going to do for your recovery today. Whether this is your first day or your 1st year at it, share with me how you’re going to move your recovery and your life forward…today.
Remember, your voice, experiences and insights are vital to this community. And what you have to share is not only unique but it may be exactly what someone else needs to read. And that someone could be you.
As always, thanks for reading!
Until Next Tuesday,
Option #1 – Sign Up To Receive Updates About ACOA 101
ACOA 101 is the first ever online course exclusively for Adult Children of Alcoholics. I spent over a year creating this course because it was the kind of thing I wish I had, a decade ago, when I first started my recovery.
The next session of ACOA 101 will be jumping off this fall. So, if you want to be kept in the loop and want to learn more then CLICK HERE and leave your name and email.
Option #2 – Think You’re Too Old For Recovery?
If you’re still not convinced that recovery can start at any time and at any age then make sure you read THIS ARTICLE.
Option #3 – Are You A Later In Life Adult Child Of An Alcoholic?
The truth is you don’t have to have grown up with an alcoholic parent to be an ACOA. Even if a parent’s drinking didn’t become a problem until you were an adult, you can still relate and experience the same issues a classic ACOA struggles with. For more on that, read THIS ARTICLE.
Option #4 – How To Know If You Should Stay Or Go
Sometimes starting over means letting go. And if you’re in a relationship with an addict or alcoholic then you know how difficult that choice can be to make. If you’re looking for some support, peace of mind or clarity around making a similar choice, THEN READ THIS.
Option #5 – Poor Self-Esteem or No Self-Esteem?
Whether you’re new to it or been at it for a long time, building and understanding self-esteem is a huge part of the recovery equation. THIS ARTICLE has some great pointers on giving your self-esteem and confidence a boost.
Option #6 – Fix This Relationship And You’ll Fix Your Life
WATCH THIS VIDEO and discover the one relationship that you need to fix if you want to fix your life.