As loved ones of addicts and alcoholics we’ve got a lot of sh*t to handle. And sometimes it can feel unfair.
When we have to take time out of our lives to learn how to detach, set boundaries and cope with the self-destructive choices our loved ones make, over and over again, it’s enough to make you want to, as Marvin Gaye sang, “holler and throw up both your hands!”
And the thing is, we’re not talking about feeling resentful towards the random fool that cut us off in traffic, we’re talking about people that we love and care for deeply.
- The father or mother of your children
- The woman who gave you life
- The child you gave life to
- A sibling that once doubled as your best friend
It’s not unusual to get to a point where you have no desire to cope anymore. You’re tired of all the fighting, worrying and denial and you’re just ready to walk away – but you don’t.
Because maybe you don’t know how. Or maybe you’re afraid of what will happen if you do.
Whatever your reason is, I want you to know that you’re not alone with what you feel. Feeling resentment towards the alcoholic or addict in your life is nothing to be ashamed of.
Because guess what? None of us are ever really sure if what we’re doing is the right thing. We’re doing our best to make sense out of a situation that’s rooted in insanity. And as you’ve probably already discovered, addiction doesn’t come with a how-to-handle-it guide book for families and loved ones.
You’re allowed to feel resentful. You’re allowed to feel helpless and far from hopeful.
If you need to vent, VENT. If you need to cry, CRY. And if you need help, ASK FOR IT!
And speaking of help, if you’re looking for direction on how to deal with any resentment you feel towards the addict or alcoholic in your life, look no further.
I’ve covered this topic before so what I’ve done is pulled together a few posts that I think you’ll not only find helpful but my hope is that they’ll serve as a reminder that you’re not alone in this.
Sometimes it isn’t advice that we need or want but just the knowing that someone else understands what we’re going through. I’m here for you either way:)
As always, thanks for reading, sharing and commenting!
Until next Tuesday,
P.S. If you find today’s post valuable, please share it with a family member or friend. It may just be the kind of support they need right now!
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