Pillsbury (Raw) Chocolate Chip Cookie Dough (In a tube)
Cool Ranch Doritos
Ben and Jerry’s Chocolate Fudge Brownie Ice-cream
Entenmann’s Soft Baked Chocolate Chip Cookies
This is a list of all the foods I used to binge on whenever I was upset and overwhelmed.
I remember one day while walking to work, I passed the David Letterman Studio in New York City and was suddenly hit with this burst of anxiety. I could barely catch my breath. So what did I do? I bolted for the ice-cream truck sitting on the corner and inhaled 3 ice-cream sandwiches and one Chipwich.
Unlike my brothers and my mom and dad, I didn’t use alcohol or drugs to numb myself through intense moments, I used and still use food.
Which isn’t uncommon for ACOAs, as Wayne Kritsberg points out in his book, The Adult Children of Alcoholics Syndrome: A Step By Step Guide To Discovery And Recovery,
I don’t believe that there is any other group that is more compulsive and addictive than ACOAs. They learn this behavior as children and, without intervention, will continue it until they die. Compulsive and addictive behavior is extremely painful, and the range of behaviors is almost limitless.
And then he goes on to include, eating disorders such as overeating, anorexia, and bulimia are among the many examples.
I know the outlook is grim but there are two things you can do right now.
- Tell yourself that you’re not alone and not a freak if you struggle with food
- Head over to the blog, and check out the 3 tips I’m sharing today to help you deal with these food issues
Look. I am right there in the trenches with you. I know what it’s like to feel that urge to bury your head in the refrigerator or plow through the grocery store when you feel overwhelmed with whatever emotion is pulsing through your little veins.
But here’s the deal. With some patience, support and focused effort you can slowly change your relationship with food.
From my own experience, this is not an easy task to take on. And it isn’t something I’ve been able to change overnight. There are no quick fixes for you here.
But, if you have some suggestions on how to deal with food then tell me all about it in the comment section. You may share something – an insight or idea – that someone else has never thought of before. So don’t be shy!!
As always, thanks for reading, commenting and sharing.
Until Next Tuesday.
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#1 Take It Binge By Binge
I made a big mistake when I first wanted to change my relationship with food. Instead of breaking the problem down and picking realistic goals, I made a wide sweeping promise to myself that I would never, ever binge eat again.
That promise lasted for about 24 hours. And before I even realized it I had a spoon in my hand and a chunk of chocolate ice-cream sitting in my mouth. I felt like a loser and a failure.
Since then I’ve learned when it comes to food, I have to take it binge by binge. I can’t assume that a solution that worked for me last month is going to work for me today. I’ve learned that every time I binge or have the urge to binge, there’s usually some new emotional wave that I need to learn to look at and deal with. And that doesn’t make me a failure. It means I’m learning more about myself and what I need.
What may work for today’s binge, in this situation, with these people or with whatever drama, may not work a week or a year from today. I may have worked through my old triggers but new ones are always popping up. And they need to be looked at with fresh and patient eyes.
#2 Don’t Listen To Fat Chat
It’s not only food that I have a bumpy relationship with, it’s also my body. For the most part, I hate on my body on a very regular basis and this is especially so after I indulge in a binge.
That’s why I think it’s so important to stay away from people who like to fat chat. I’m talking about the people in your life that constantly talk about: what they ate, how fat it’s making them, how fat they look, how tight their jeans feel and how their body isn’t summer ready. That chatter will only fuel the noise and anxiety that’s already buzzing around in your head.
This is a hard tip to follow especially if you are like me and you have an endless loop of fat chat swirling around in your head. I’m working on this big time right now and it’s hard to not listen to that loop. But so far I’ve figured out the one way to work through it is by not engaging in fat chat with the people around me.
#3 Check Your Pace Before You Stuff Your Face
Back in the day, when my impulsive eating muscles were strong, I wouldn’t even realize that I was bingeing until I swallowed the last cookie or Doritos in the family sized bag.
My impulse to binge became a habit that took on a mind of its own.
That is until I started to pay attention. And with some patience I eventually realized that when I binged I ate at a much quicker pace then I normally would. I also noticed that I didn’t taste the food I was eating. It was more like shoveling and shoving food down my throat.
I mean who eats an entire box of cookies but has no idea or recollection of what they tasted like?
These were the clues that I discovered that helped me regulate my binge habit. I know now that if I’m eating fast that I need to slow down and consider what else might be going on.