Out of the corner of my eye, I caught this headline on the cover of “Oprah Magazine” –
One-Minute Meditations – You Give Us 60 Seconds – We’ll Give You Peace Of Mind!
And I thought,
Shit. One-minute meditations? That’s all I need to do? I’m in!
So, I bought O’s mag. Rolled her up, stuffed her under my arm and headed home.
The article offers up five mini-meditations for all sorts of situations.
But the one about feeling anxious when dealing with a difficult family member practically jumped off the page at me.
Here’s what the author suggested you do to deal with jerks.
Before you have to deal with the obnoxious uncle or narcissistic mother-in-law, sit for a minute with your eyes closed and visualize that person as an adorable toddler.
Now, if you’ve been around the self-help/meditation block a few times you’ve probably heard this one before.
When I was working out my codependency and addiction issues with my dad, I tried to picture him as a baby to temper my anger.
To be honest, I’ve always found this approach a bit too soft for me.
But when I tweaked this meditation not only did I gain peace of mind – I also found myself laughing hysterically.
And dealing with the difficult people in my life became loads easier. Not to mention comical.
The twist I’ve added to this meditation was inspired by a grumpy toddler I bumped into six years ago while shoe shopping.
Click the video below to hear The Temper Tantrum story.
So, how did the little boy with the sweaty eyeballs inspire my meditation tweak?
Instead of picturing my jerky someone as a cute and cuddly toddler – I picture them as a toddler having the most ridiculous temper tantrum.
I picture them whining, stomping their feet, throwing their balled up fists in the air or pouting with their little arms squeezed across their chest.
You’d be amazed at how funny it can be to imagine an adult having a wild and snotty fit.
But the cool part about this tweak is that it eased the tension and reduced the stress I felt in uncomfortable interactions.
My anxiety faded, I didn’t get overwhelmed with anger and the person across from me lost their power to “push my buttons.”
With this tweak, I’ve actually been able to turn some of the most anxiety filled interactions into something comical.
How To Use This Meditation
Using this meditation couldn’t be simpler.
Before you have to deal with your special someone, close your eyes for a minute and picture that person having a toddler tantrum.
Something like the video below.
Then the next time he or she starts to rattle your nerves, think back to image you created and watch your stress and anxiety melt like ice in the Sahara desert.
Although this meditation can be incredibly helpful, I don’t recommend you try this with situations or people that threaten your safety. If someone you know is prone to physical violence -the best meditation is to just stay away if you can manage it.
If you give it a try, tell me how this meditation works out for you in the comments below. And if you have any other tricks or tips on how to deal with difficult people, leave that in the comments to.
I’ll see you in 2016! Remember to take care of yourself and be safe this New Years.
I don’t have any plans besides laying on the couch in my pajamas, underneath my favorite blanket and watching movies with my husband and cat.
I like to think that I’ll be up to watch fireworks. But who am I kidding? I’ll probably be passed out by 10pm. Ha! #lifeofapartyanimal.
Until Next Tuesday,